I may or may not have screen capped this just to remember that ONE time the Bering and Wells fandom actually won something…..even if it doesn’t last :P
I need to constantly remind myself not to read the comments there. I hope Myka wins for many reasons. One, because if HG can’t win, then Myka sure as hell should. Two, Myka is amazing and could totally beat Lauren in combat. And three, the freaking hate being spouted towards Myka because she isn’t a “canon” bisexual.
SORRY THAT WAREHOUSE 13 ISN’T A SHOWCASE SHOW. Had it been on Showcase, Myka and HG probably would’ve had massively hot on screen sex in season 2. And then tried to find a way around the hologram nonsense in season 3 to have sex again that would’ve resulted to some crazy weird version of phone sex (or you know, vocal masturbation). And then had sex again after saving the warehouse, witnesses be damned.
Regardless of the kissing, or lack there of, it has been stated that Myka falls somewhere in the middle of the kinsey scale. Joanne has said that Myka will always love HG. That they are in love in a definitely scissory way. Jaime and Jo played the characters as if they fell in love. You know what happens a lot in real life? You fall for someone but for whatever reason YOU NEVER TELL THEM. YOU NEVER ACT ON IT. It fucking happens. A lot. Doesn’t make the character or person any less gay, straight, bi, whatever. Oh, you’re not a part of the fandom so you don’t know what has happened? Then STFU. Can’t really draw a conclusion when you know nothing about the show, the character, the actor’s motivation and portrayal of said character, etc. Not to mention you’re very likely upsetting a lot of people on a personal level. THINK BEFORE YOU TYPE, ASSHATS.
/super pissy rant
So, I made the mistake of reading the comments. And I’m just….sad. Forget all the crap about getting waaaay too upset over an internet poll focused on fictional characters. What I see is identity policing. I see people - on a website supposedly created to make space for and celebrate multiple and fluid sexualities - essentially saying “how dare you not be as gay as I think you should be!”
Now, I understand a lot of these commentators are probably young. And when you’re young and trying to figure out who you are, having a label can be amazing. It can mean you ‘fit’ somewhere. It can - in a very real way - signify that you exist, and you are not alone because there are others like you.
But as someone who is definitely not young, I gotta say folks, life and sexual identity and attraction just don’t fucking work that way. Oh sure society would like you believe it does. Because labels have power. Labels are easy. If someone is X then you don’t have to think any farther than that. And lots and lots of people go through life never questioning who they want to bang. But identity - sexual or otherwise - is not a static state. It just isn’t. Even if you’re straight as an arrow or a gold star lesbian you’re not attracted to the same people when you’re 40 that you were when you were 14. Just like you love different fashions or have different taste in movies. You find different foods comforting and prefer different kinds of booze or tea or coffee. You make new friends and lose touch with others and all of that changes who you are. It might be a small change, like a minor sunburn that doesn’t last long but leaves your arms just a tiny bit darker, or it might be a major change, like a scar or a tattoo. It is still change, growth, evolution.
And when you spend all your time and energy trying to tell other people how their identity should conform to your own understanding, not only are you being the worst kind of bully and oppressor, but you are basically helping all those who would like to see us - the non-binary, the queer, the trans, the fluid - go away; you are helping those hateful conservatives who want to deny us our right to marry, to vote, to exist, because you are erasing each other.
Yeah I went there. When you tell another member of the queer community that they can’t be a part of the queer community because they don’t live up to ‘your’ standard, you’re basically doing our oppressor’s job for them. You’re denying yourself an ally, someone to share the burden of this fucking shitty reality we live in. Because it is shitty. And we’ve got a long way to go before its not shitty. And the only way to get there is to stop parroting the discourses of the conservatives. (NOT the “Republicans” I mean conservatives in its most classic sense). Yes, that means some of those allies will be “allies,” some will not be as committed to change as you are, many will have different perspectives. That may be frustrating, it may be distasteful. It may be hurtful.
You don’t have to excuse that, you don’t have to let outsiders take our struggle and make it about them, but the road to equality can’t be paved with our own identities. Because chances are, those of you yelling the loudest will wake up one day and realize you aren’t the same person you used to be, and you’ll regret all the hurt you caused, and that’s sad.
Just in case this wasn’t made clear enough the first time.